Romantic Love Letters

The Problem of Distance

You are unable to spend time with your loved one and there is fear that you may grow apart, your significant other may find someone else or the distance will weaken your bond. It is an age old occurrence. You miss each other; you get lonely; you long for affection; you (or they) go out share time with someone else, regardless of being in a relationship.

Sometimes, we just cannot help ourselves. After all, we are by nature social creatures. The likelihood of meeting someone else, through social interaction or being without your significant other for an extended period of time, is extremely high. The distance and pressure leaves room for temptation. Many fall victim because they cannot be with the one they love. The lack of presence is just too much for some people to bear.

Bridging The Gap

So the question is, how do we get over the feeling of being alone or beyond the constant yearning? The answer is simple. To prevent our partners from feeling lonely and to remind them “I am here and steadfastly waiting for your return”, it is essential that we keep the fire alive through genuine love letters sent regularly.

Special Benefit To Your Loved One

Love letters make our partners feel as if we were never apart. In a lot of cases, words written have a deeper and greater impact than words spoken. Through letters, we get to express many of the feelings we normally bottle up inside. In most cases, through written words, we get to profess our inner-most feelings.

Much effort is placed in writing these letters… which will be greatly appreciated. This way, we get to reach out to our significant other and give them the attention, affection, admiration and encouragement they long for, especially if they are in the military.

Through these letters, they no longer have the need to seek these qualities from other people who may be available to them. Doing this is like putting a soothing salve on their heart. They no longer feel alone because your letter becomes a warm emotional balm that gives them strength and shows appreciation.

Special Benefit To You

Romantic love letters not only help prevent our partners from straying or feeling vulnerable to someone new; it works the same way for the writer as well. By writing heartfelt letters, you plant in your own mind that someone still cares for you, is longing to be with you and constantly thinking about you, regardless of the long distance.

You get to remember what you admire about him or her and experience your longing for his or her companionship. The perfect release of such powerful “contained” emotion is to express it in writing and send it. True, when you are not around, there is a tendency for him or her to be tempted or fall into something they should not. However, when they are reminded of what is special about what the two of you share; there is little chance for this to happen.

Get Your Ex Back

The first thing you do, and this is more important for those in LDR than anyone, is to maintain no contact. It is paramount that you do not contact your ex. I was recently asked, “How is no contact going to help me get my ex back if I wasn’t there in person”? Well, it works the EXACT same way as if you WERE in person. No contact is something that effects the dumper in an emotional and mental way.

While involved in the long distance relationship, you have been a provider of emotional support for the duration of the entire relationship, whether you realize it or not. It was your emails, it was your phone calls, it was your kind words of encouragement and support that your ex looked forward to everyday. When you, by going no contact, pull that emotional support rug out from under their feet, they will miss it eventually. Believe it!

Imagine if your main emotional support group was, all of a sudden, to disappear from your life? What if you couldn’t call on (fill in the blank) to vent your grievances to? Or to share your hopes and dreams with? Or whatever, would you miss them? Absolutely you would.

Fear not, my little LDR exes, no contact will work just the same for you as anyone else.

Overcome Online Dating Problems

1. When meeting, do make up arrangements first. Since you barely know the person, do not let him or her meet you from your home.

2. Meet in public places. If it is okay with your date, you could ask another pair or some friends to go with you. If he or she is genuine in his or her interests, this shouldn’t be a problem.

3. If you are having a lunch or dinner in a café or restaurant, you should shoulder half of the bill. By paying half of the bill, you are free from obligations that you have to meet the person again.

4. If you have your own mode of transportation, like a car, you should use it. Do not rely on a date’s car so that you won’t feel that you have to ride with him or her if the date turns awry.

5. Try to avoid alcoholic drinks while having the date.

6. If you are planning to meet your date the second time around, arrange for one and evaluate if he or she deserves to know your personal home address. Never give your address when meeting the person the first time.

7. Do not go to secluded and dimly-lit areas at night. Try staying in crowded places as possible.

8. Try listening to your intuition. If something doesn’t feel right, then it would be better that you assess it. If something is really troubling you or is not right, maybe it would be best that you thank your date and leave as soon as possible.

9. Tell a friend your date’s contact details and plans for the date. It might be wise for him or her to check you from time to time. You could also ask some friends to meet you and check up after your date with the person.

Some Reasons Online Dating is a Good Idea

1. Volume: Perhaps the foremost advantage is the almost limitless supply of people online, all with one common goal: to find a date. The huge numbers of available singles improve the odds of meeting the Mr. or Miss/Ms. Right. And, there are always fresh “supplies” as new people continue to join dating sites.

2. No guessing (in most cases) as to whether the other person is available or not, as they wouldn’t be on a dating site if they weren’t.

3. Wide net: Online dating offers you the opportunity contact multiple prospects at the same time. After exchanging emails and/or phone calls you can determine which if any is worth keeping. If none, just continue your search.

4. Online dating eliminates the awkwardness of first introductions. The first encounter is always the hardest for most people, and getting over it makes the rest of the dating experience much easier.

5. Speed: Online dating is designed towards a fast and efficient initial contact. Once the contact has been made, you can slow things slowed down to find out if you have a match.